KnitWit: Rantings of a Rabid Knitter

Comment by Melinda

March 23, 2009 @ 12:19 pm

Carry, you’re brave to tell this story, and I wish more people could talk about this issue. That’s a heartbreaking story so far. You can’t blame yourself. You can just be a friend to her for if and when she’s ready to think about leaving and hopefully she’d contact you then. She might not be upset at you at all - it might be him pulling the strings to cut her off from supportive friends as that’s classic MO for that kind of guy. Best wishes.

Comment by valeria

March 24, 2009 @ 3:42 am

Dear Carry,

my heart goes out to you and tears run over my face listening you to your plea to your friend to accept your appologies.

I do think you where there as a friend and I think that it was her choice to break the contact. If it’s on his behalf or hers, it’s still their responsibility not yours.

You didn’t hit her, that did her fiancee/husband. You didn’t break the contact and I think she made a choice to stop the contact as she knows that it would hurt too much to accept that she made some wrond decisions.

I feel your pain and I think that you did what you could. Sometimes you must let people go to forgive them and yourself for any mistakes if there were some because I don’t think you made any mistake.

You tried to contact her, you tried to make it right.

She made her choice in live and I think you’ve to accept it although I know it hurts.

If I were with you I would hold you and give you a big hug just as a comfort and that I understand your feelings and pain and hope that you’ll let it go now. Love is letting go, just as you told that you accepted eachothers freedom.

I think that if she would come to you, your door will be open to her as well as your heart. Let it stay that way and pray that she will be fine.

I’ll light a candle to you and sending the light and warmth from my candle from over here in the netherlands and hope that it will give you some kind off comfort and peace.

Take care.
Hugs xxx
Valeria.

Comment by bunnysquirrel

March 25, 2009 @ 10:49 am

i agree with everything valeria said in her comment. especially the hugs. i know what it’s like to lose a friend to circumstances that seem beyond control.

Comment by LizaKnitter

March 26, 2009 @ 9:02 am

Carry, I was crying, waiting for the crosstown bus yesterday morning as I listened to your story about your friendship with Kelly. I love the way you conveyed all the complexities of the situation. And, what makes it especially moving and special is the way you shared your feelings. Your podcast is just wonderful and I thank you for all the work.

Comment by Eva

April 10, 2009 @ 8:41 am

Thank you for not telling only funny and wise stories, but also the sad ones. This was a very moving episode and I really hope that one day Kelly gets to hear it.

Have a great spring weekend and take care.